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Sunday, January 22, 2012

What I Want For My 22nd Birthday, Including If I Can't Those DNA Tests From (And For) the Family

I want the Rapture to come. Can you imagine a tearless, painless, sufferless, burdenless world? There's a gift for the world-- or at least the Church in the world. But because of the Rapture, many of the world will come to see what they could've had if they had been only in the world; and salvation in any form at that point will be a gift-- whether they'll have to face being left behind, losing a loved one and having to know that he or she went to be with Jesus (Yeshua), or even being murdered by the Antichrist (Ha'Ish Asher Lo L'Mashiach) and calling out HaShem-Mashiach in his or her last moments.

Friday, January 20, 2012

Not That I'm Self Exalting, But...

I'm just as "what you see is what you get" as Geraldo Rivera. I don't hide ish (pun highly intended. If you don't understand what "ish" is in Hebrew and is in English, Google it.). I criticize even my own family and the most central member in the family (next to G-d) to me-- me. I know me as well as I know me, and know me better than I know anyone else. But even G-d knows me better than I know me.

By the way, you have a problem if you're not the most central member of your family (next to G-d) to you. Who are you if you don't know who you are and why you are who you are? For example, I thought that I was a Dark Irish, German-French, Polish-Lithuanian-Czechoslovakian American before I knew that I'm an Anusit-- or was an Anusit. Now because I'm not a Crypto Jew and I even know that I'm a Jew in the first place, I can confidently be a Patrilineally-Jewish Messianic Jew with Ashkenazic Jewish- (hold your breath) Polish-Russian, Polish-Ukrainian-Russian, perhaps Lithuanian-Belorussian, Slovakian-Hungarian, Slovakian-Austrian-Hungarian, and Slovakian-Russian blood (I warned you to hold your breath. I just gave you a long list of the Ashkenazic Jewish blood that I have.).

As for the gentile blood (I think, though some could very well be Jewish blood); it's a long list, too. Want the list? E-mail me or comment on this blog. The list is as extensive and contains just as much information that you might need. By the way, where are relatives e-mailing me? Also by the way, ain't that fun that I'm probably related to Kirk Douglas (nee Issur Danielovich)? (I was being sarcastic about the "fun" part. Having Jack Czarnecki, Mary Gaydos, and Mia Danilowicz-- among others-- as relatives is enough.)

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Non-Evangelical Catholicism Even Inadvertently Admits That It's Not Christianity

Google "Catholicism and fundamentalism". For example, the Catholics admit that they don't believe in the inerrancy and infallibility of the Bible, and that do so is "fundamentalist" in a derogatory sense according to Catholicism. The Catholics even criticize Evangelical Catholics:

"Fundamentalism is a relatively new brand of Protestantism started in America that has attracted a tremendous following, including many fallen away Catholics. How did this popular movement originate? The history of Fundamentalism may be viewed as having three main phases. The first lasted a generation, from the 1890s to the Scopes "Monkey Trial" of 1925. In this period, Fundamentalism emerged as a reaction to liberalizing trends in American Protestantism; it broke off, but never completely, from Evangelicalism, of which it may be considered one wing. In its second phase, it passed from public view, but never actually disappeared or even lost ground. Finally, Fundamentalism came to the nation’s attention again around 1970, and it has enjoyed considerable growth. 
"What has been particularly surprising is that Catholics seem to constitute a disproportionate share of the new recruits. The Catholic Church in America includes about a quarter of the country’s inhabitants, so one might expect about a quarter of new Fundamentalists to have been Catholics at one time. But in many Fundamentalist congregations, anywhere from one-third to one-half of the members once belonged to the Catholic Church. This varies around the country, depending on how large the native Catholic population is."

Many of these Evangelical Catholics are Protestants who are Evangelical (Christian) and still Catholic at heart, just Evangelical Catholics and Protestants who would be still Catholic if the Catholic Church were Evangelical.  Evangelical Catholics do not like the following criticized by the Catholic Church:

The fundamental doctrines identified in the series can be reduced to five: (I) the inspiration and what the writers call infallibility of Scripture, (2) the deity of Christ (including his virgin birth), (3) the substitutionary atonement of his death, (4) his literal resurrection from the dead, and (5) his literal return at the Second Coming. 

Catholics particularly hate the following:

"Although the doctrine of the inspiration and inerrancy of the Bible is most commonly cited as the essential cornerstone of the Fundamentalist beliefs, the logically prior doctrine is the deity of Christ. For the Catholic, his deity is accepted either on the word of the authoritative and infallible Church or because a dispassionate examination of the Bible and early Christian history shows that he must have been just what he claimed to be—God. 
"Most Catholics, as a practical matter, accept his divinity based upon the former method; many—the apologist Arnold Lunn is a good example—use the latter. In either case, there is a certain reasoning involved in the Catholic’s embrace of this teaching. For many Fundamentalists, the assurance of Christ’s divinity comes not through reason, or even through faith in the Catholic meaning of the word, but through an inner, personal experience."

In other words, Catholics have to lie about what Protestants and Evangelical Catholics believe. Protestants and Evangelical Catholics believe in grace through faith alone, and vice versa, based on what the Bible says. Protestants and Evangelical Catholics do not believe in a New Age "inner, personal experience". And the experience is not personal-- for "there are three that bear witness on earth: the Spirit, the water, and the blood; and these three agree as one." 
There is nothing personal in salvation-- one must answer to and be saved by the Spirit. Salvation is not a choice, but an election and calling which all the members of Eloheinu Echad choose to confer on someone-- and thus the saved have no individual choice and are held accountable in regards to salvation:
14 What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? Certainly not! 15 For He says to Moses,“I will have mercy on whomever I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whomever I will have compassion.”[f] 16 So then it is not of him who wills, nor of him who runs, but of God who shows mercy. 17 For the Scripture says to the Pharaoh, “For this very purpose I have raised you up, that I may show My power in you, and that My name may be declared in all the earth.”[g] 18 Therefore He has mercy on whom He wills, and whom He wills He hardens. 
19 You will say to me then, “Why does He still find fault? For who has resisted His will?” 20 But indeed, O man, who are you to reply against God? Will the thing formed say to him who formed it, “Why have you made me like this?” 21 Does not the potter have power over the clay, from the same lump to make one vessel for honor and another for dishonor? 
22 What if God, wanting to show His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much longsuffering the vessels of wrath prepared for destruction, 23 and that He might make known the riches of His glory on the vessels of mercy, which He had prepared beforehand for glory, 24 even us whom He called, not of the Jews only, but also of the Gentiles? 

The blood, by the way, is the witness of and for particularly Jesus; and the water of baptism, and of particularly the Father and the Spirit-- maybe just particularly the Father, though (which is a long discussion). 






Monday, December 26, 2011

My Mom Jokes That I Ought To Become Catholic...

Yeah; I've been down that road before. I was baptized Roman Catholic, raised English Catholic (Episcopalian), went to a Roman Catholic college that.... I'd better stop before I talk about a certain church to which it could be paralleled. I also still have Anusi Catholic and Non-Catholic (and openly-Jewish and Non-Jewish Catholic) family members. So, I get the gist of being Catholic, and I'm far from becoming Catholic any time soon.


That doesn't mean that I don't think that there are Evangelical Catholics, though-- my cousin Sue is an Evangelical Catholic. My maternal grandma, as far as I know, is an Evangelical Catholic. My late, seminary-educated granddad was an Evangelical Catholic and actually getting ready to leave the Roman Catholic Church before he died; and his sister Margaret studied the Bible quite a bit if not every day (Her GNT version has markings in it, bookmarks and other placeholders, etc.). There are other Evangelical Catholics; but being Catholic, even an Evangelical Catholic, is not for me. In order to be considered a good Catholic and not a "fundamentalist", one has to:



  • Disbelieve the inerrancy of the Word of G-d. I keep coming back to Reform Judaism and Amy Scheinerman on this because Reform Judaism is the Catholicism of Judaism in many senses:
"Reform Jews, however, understand the texts to have been written by human beings -- our ancestors. In my personal opinion, the texts are certainly divinely inspired and reflect our ancestors' best understanding of God and their covenant with God, as well as their view of God's will, but that is not the same as being divinely-authored. Hence, Reform Jews read the texts through the spectacles not only of a religious person, but those of the scholar as well. Some institutions are considered to be a product of the cultural milieu and societal norms of the ancient Near East when the Hebrew Scriptures were written down, and do not speak to our lives today." 

Take those words and Catholicize them, and you'll have stolen them right from the mouths of "Doctor" Lyle Weiss, Marcus J. Borg, Sisters Sharon Kanis and Eileen Eppig, etc.. "Dr." Weiss once said that the Bible is (or at least he said something like) "Man's experiencing G-d... with some nuances." 

A good Catholic also has to:
  • Be Anti Death Penalty.
  • Be Democrat or Socialist (Look at how Speaker John Boehener was excoriated for being a Republican by Catholic universities.).
  • Believe in transubstantiation.
  • Allow that priests, nuns, and other clergy not marry.
  • Believe in Miryam bat-Eli as the daughter of a Joachim and Anna who stayed a Virgin after Jesus was born, and that Miryam is the Queen of Heaven who can intercede for us just because she gave birth to Yeshua; regardless of what Scripture says.
  • At least observe Christmas and Easter if not also the Feast Days, Days of Solemnity, Sunday mass, etc.
  • Go through baptism, confirmation, etc. if he or she can.
  • Go to Pre Confirmation and Confirmation Preparation classes.
  • Go to Sunday school and even Catholic school if he or she can.
  • Pray the rosary at least once in his or her lifetime.
  • Believe that he or she can lose his or her salvation by doing a bad work and has to get it back by confession and penance.
The list goes on, but the point is that being a Non-Evangelical (Non-"Fundamentalist"), good-enough Catholic entails being a "good enough" person and doing works that are good within the context of Catholic thinking. Catholicism isn't about faith through grace alone, salvation through mercy alone, etc..

So no matter how much I joke or say that I'm going to Hell for doing something bad or seemingly bad, I won't be a Catholic.

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Christmas Isn't A Time To Forsake the Truth For "Good Tidings"...

In fact, truth is a good tiding. Too often we forget that what came is "[w]oe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who put darkness for light, and light for darkness; Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!" Remember that "He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. " For "In Him was life, and the life was the light of men. And the light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not comprehend it."


The darkness and those of darkness do not want the truth and light. They don't want to comprehend them. For "[y]et the LORD has not given [them] a heart to perceive and eyes to see and ears to hear, to this very day." That doesn't mean truth is to be forsaken:

Isaiah 43:8-9

New King James Version (NKJV)
8 Bring out the blind people who have eyes,
      And the deaf who have ears.
       9 Let all the nations be gathered together,
      And let the people be assembled.
      Who among them can declare this,
      And show us former things?
      Let them bring out their witnesses, that they may be justified;
      Or let them hear and say, “It is truth.” 



Every forsaker of truth will be repaid:



Psalm 69:22-23

New King James Version (NKJV)

 22 Let their table become a snare before them,
         And their well-being a trap.
 23 Let their eyes be darkened, so that they do not see;
         And make their loins shake continually.



And 



Psalm 118:22

New King James Version (NKJV)

 22 The stone which the builders rejected
         Has become the chief cornerstone.



Also as written:



Luke 20:13-18

New King James Version (NKJV)
13 “Then the owner of the vineyard said, ‘What shall I do? I will send my beloved son. Probably they will respect him when they see him.’ 14 But when the vinedressers saw him, they reasoned among themselves, saying, ‘This is the heir. Come, let us kill him, that the inheritance may be ours.’ 15 So they cast him out of the vineyard and killed him. Therefore what will the owner of the vineyard do to them? 16 He will come and destroy those vinedressers and give the vineyard to others.”
And when they heard it they said, “Certainly not!”
17 Then He looked at them and said, “What then is this that is written:


      ‘ The stone which the builders rejected
      Has become the chief cornerstone’?

 18 Whoever falls on that stone will be broken; but on whomever it falls, it will grind him to powder.”






      

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

I Know That People Care, But It's Still A Long Battle...

And anyway, I was finally able to give the "Director" of "Caring" Ministries the rebuke that she deserves:





-----Original Message-----
From: Nickidewbear
To: cdallwig
Sent: Wed, Dec 21, 2011 9:31 am
Subject: Re: Ride to Chapelgate


And you were supposed to call me, but you never did. What happened to your being the Caring Coordinator and reaching out to church members?

...
Nicole, 


I understand that you have been inquiring about getting a ride to Chapelgate?  Please call me to let me know what your need is and we can discuss.....I would appreciate it if you would refrain from posting my name on facebook posts without trying to contact me first.  You have my e-mail and phone number available to you as well as anyone else would......

T hanks. 








Cathy Dallwig
Director of Caring Ministries
Chapelgate Church 
410-442-5800, ext 128

*Office Hours, 9-3  Mon - Thurs





=

I don't think that after this, she'll hypocritically leave me off of the "Practical Needs List- CPC", which she did. What a hypocrite she can be! Keep bugging her and tell her with me that I mean that she's supposed to live up to her job title and at least put me on the "Practical Needs List- CPC". Let me give you the example that I mean from this morning:



In a message dated 12/21/2011 12:31:11 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, cdallwig@chapelgate.org writes:

Practical Needs List - CPC

CPC Member Announcements at Chapelgate Presbyterian Church
Message from: Cathy Dallwig
Hi all,

Listed below are a couple of needs that I have become aware of in our congregation. Please contact the person with the need directly, if you are able to help.

1.[Censored] is looking for ...

2. [Censored] is recovering from...
3.[Censored] is in immediate need of....
Thank you.

Cathy Dallwig
Director of Caring Ministries
410-442-5800, ext 128
cdallwig@chapelgate.org

Let me give you a hint: I'm not one of the three people on that list. And pray for all those people, by the way. One did get their needs provided for, by the way. Now also pray that this disabled Jew with a divorced parents and meshuga mishpacha on both sides does, and keep bugging Cathy Dallwig so that she can't kick out this outcast like she'd like to; and you and I both know that she doesn't want to deal with me.

But if I get the need to get a consistent ride to church, I can at least have some of my problems (also including the OCD/Anxiety/Depression, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, and ADD) helped to be managed by G-d. And Cathy Dallwig can't say a darn if G-d does provide because saying something against G-d's will would be very stupid.

I'm Not Trying To Get Attention When I Write About Depression and Suicidal Thoughts, and Loneliness In General...

What amazes me is that I think that people think that I am fucking kidding or trying to get attention when I say that I'm tempted to commit suicide. I wasn't kidding when I ended up in Sheppard Pratt in April 2006, was I? I wasn't kidding when I tried to attempt suicide in 1998 (when I was eight years old), was I? And when I called the Suicide Hotline tonight, I hung up twice-- I wasn't going to be able to tell them what's going on, at least without crying and bursting into incoherence while crying. I also couldn't tell them because I'm a Christian and they might not be able to understand some of what I'm going through.


Also, my mom calling my psychiatrist isn't going to help a lot-- he's not a Christian and (as I've told him and others) there are issues that the Sertraline and Abilify can't touch. I even got so desperate as to try Match.com to find the one for me-- one of my Hanukkah and Christmas wishes. Not only was Match.com a violation of 1 Corinthians 7, anyway-- since Christians are to follow the mitzvah that states, "Are you loosed from [without] a [spouse]? Do not seek a [spouse]."; but Match.com just wasn't worth what I need in a man, anyway. Remember, I have Cerebral Palsy, OCD/Anxiety/Depression, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, mild ADD, and possible Aspberger's. Also, my family has ilks that are (as I will continue to point out that Mia Danilowicz, part of the ilks actually so kindly proves about herself) "fucking psycho" (Todah, Mia; v'l'Hanukkah Tovah Tikatevi.). I need a man who can provide for and deal with all of and every aspect of me (including my medical and family history.).


PS I'm still waiting for that call from Cathy Dallwig about transporting disabled members to Chapelgate. Please kindly email her for me (as Charles Polk already did; and I know that Charles Polk is one out of few who actually care for me), and bug @ChapelgateNews on Twitter for me. I'm unkindly not leaving their church, no matter how much they don't want a disabled Jew with divorced parents and a crazy dad to not worship G-d among them.

Friday, December 16, 2011

Maybe I'm Crazy For Having This Image, But...

Maybe, just maybe, Christopher Hitchens did have the deathbed conversion that he called a possibility, albeit a slim one: maybe after losing his mom, who left his dad and committed suicide shortly after her leaving, and losing his dad; plus growing up in a poor family then having a divorce when he started his own family, maybe he's being rocked in G-d's arms tonight.

 Maybe he's being rocked in G-d's arms tonight and being told that it's okay, like a dad would rock his child and comfort him or her. After all, Christopher Hitchens was Jewish and had a hard life, so he was biologically a     ben-Elohim-- a son of G-d-- who had a lot of suffering from which he needed to be saved.

In other words, any Jew is a ben- or bat-Elohim, since he or she is created (as all humans are; but unlike other humans, created) and set apart and chosen as part of 'am-Elohim in keeping 'im hab'rit im Avraham, Yitzchak, v'Ya'akov. So, Christopher Hitchens was, by nature (that is, ethnicity; not, as the Mormons would put it, sexuality or G-d-human sexual relations) a biological (but not, as I said, G-d-human-sexual relations-wise) a ben-Elohim, thus part of the chosen 'am-Elohim.

As for the suffering aspect, who does G-d seek out?


Matthew 9:12-14

New King James Version (NKJV)
12 When Jesus heard that, He said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice.’[a] For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance.”[b]


G-d has been called the Great Physician, the only one who could ultimately heal or save Christopher Hitchens from throat cancer in either lifetime. Let's just hope that Christopher Hitchens as a ben-Elohim got a bikur chol visit from the Great Physician Himself and yeshuat 'im habikur.

Sunday, November 27, 2011

When Reform Judaism Puts Messianic Judaism to Shame, As Yeshuat Yisrael Messianic Congregation Could Exemplify

Amein, Yeshuat Yisrael: "Live a Godly lifestyle where the MESSIAH IS CENTER and the Torah is principle. The Torah is totally holy, but we are under no obligation to keep it. We are free to keep the biblical (still biblical) precepts of scripture. The key is individual freedom, not corporate legislative legalism. Messianic believers must hold firm that the Brit Chadasha is a very Jewish book and... the most Jewish thing that anyone could do is to follow the Jewish Messiah Yeshua. God offers a free gift that can not be obtained at the local rabbinic synagogue."

And isn't that Non-Messianic Reform Jews get that "We are free to keep the biblical (still biblical) precepts of scripture..." while many Messianic Jews do not sad? "The key is individual freedom, not corporate legislative legalism." The key is indeed what will bring more sanctity, as Reform Judaism echoes Romans 14 on. "As for practice, it strongly recommends individual study of the traditional practices; however, the adherent is free to follow only those practices that increase the sanctity of their relationship to G-d."


As for Romans 14, read it for yourself. Go right to Bible Gateway or Bible Study tools. I'm not doing the work for you.

Avraham Kept Torah shel Brit Chadashah


I may lose friends over this (aI have already lost at least one Facebook friend-- and she fooled me twice, anyway; shame on me for ever reconfirming her as a friend); but Tanakh is indisputably clear that one can keep either all 613 mitzvot-- which, since a Temple no longer stands, are impossible to keep-- or Brit Chadashah, which Avraham himself kept (cf. Bereshit 15:6). For:

eternal life to those who by patient continuance in doing good seek for glory, honor, and immortality; but to those who are self-seeking and do not obey the ...truth, but obey unrighteousness—indignation and wrath, tribulation and anguish, on every soul of man who does evil, of the Jew first and also of the Greek; but glory, honor, and peace to everyone who works what is good, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. For there is no partiality with God.
For as many as have sinned without law will also perish without law, and as many as have sinned in the law will be judged by the law (for not the hearers of the law are just in the sight of God, but the doers of the law will be justified; for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them) in the day when God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ, according to my gospel [cf. Galatians 1:6-12].
By the way, I certainly won't allow gerim to ever come in and tell Jews like me that we have to keep a Torah that even Avraham couldn't have kept, anyway (He cheated with Hagar, remember?) and that Moshe couldn't keep (since he struck the rock and was not allowed to be b'Eretz Yisra'el). I'll also give Reform and other Non-Messianic Jews this: they run into many "Meshichim" P'rushim and think, "Well, gee; why leave Judaism and come to Yeshua if Messianic Judaism is no different? What's the point of being under grace if we still have to keep all 613 mitzvot? Really; even Reform Judaism works better for me."
They even say, " As for practice, it strongly recommends individual study of the traditional practices; however, the adherent is free to follow only those practices that increase the sanctity of their relationship to G-d. Reform also stresses equality between the sexes." This echos Romim (Romans) 14.

Moshe Looked To Torah Shel Brit Chadashah, and Legalistic "Messianic Judaism" Is Not Jewish

"Now the LORD spoke to Moses, saying, “Speak to the children of Israel, saying: ‘If a person sins unintentionally against any of the commandments of the LORD in anything which ought not to be done, and does any of them, if the anointed priest sins, bringing guilt on the people, then let him offer to the LORD for his sin which he has sinned a young bull without blemish as a sin offering..."

Those who insist on keeping all 613 mitzvot make the blood worthless ("For it is impossible for those who...fall away, to renew them again to repentance, since they crucify again for themselves the Son of God, and put Him to an open shame.", as Hebrews 6 partly reads.). They like to play pick-and-choose mitzvot while under grace, since they cannot possibly go to the Temple and offer a korban l'kippur.

Besides, "the law, having a shadow of the good things to come, and not the very image of the things, can never with these same sacrifices, which they offer continually year by year, make those who approach perfect. For then would they not have ceased to be offered? For the worshipers, once purified, would have had no more consciousness of sins. But in those sacrifices there is a reminder of sins every year. For it is not possible that the blood of bulls and goats could take away sins.", as Hebrews 10 partly reads.

To advocate that keeping all 613 mitzvot while under grace is a mitzvah, is a sin. Legalism is sin, and "if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful expectation of judgment, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries. Anyone who has rejected Moses’ law dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. Of how much worse punishment, do you suppose, will he be thought worthy who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, counted the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified a common thing, and insulted the Spirit of grace?"

Friday, November 25, 2011

Every Time That I See "A Christmas Story" and Ralphie Beats Up Farcus...

I cry for Ralphie, especially when he's crying while looking his mother in the face and facing what happened. The year is 1940, and Ralphie is nine years of age at the time (meaning that he was born in 1931; almost a half-decade after my mom's mom, and a half-decade before my dad's parents). Ralphie is part of the infamous Silent Generation; in which abuse is either tolerated and even encouraged, or just plain not talked about. By the way, I'm quite sure that Joe Paterno has had the "Silent Generation" excuse used for him-- after all, he grew up in the "You don't talk about it" culture.

Having gone through abuse myself and hearing of a cousin's work in which she has to deal with horrendous cases of abuse, I can relate to Ralphie. That Farcus is just a plain old bully isn't the case, but Farcus' situation (obvious abuse-- perhaps neglect being the full, but still painful, extent) isn't an excuse for him to pick on and abuse Ralphie. Ralphie is an obvious target for Farcus because (from all outward appearances, such as to Farcus' eyes), Ralphie seems to come from an intact and good family (He doesn't. His dad isn't exactly Husband or Dad of the Year.).

As the saying goes, "Abuse begets abuse" and (as Dr. Sandy Wilson put the saying in other words) "Hurt people hurt people." The saying is based on-- besides common sense-- direct-from-the-Bible admonitions:

12 Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him. 13 Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. 14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

The desire to hurt others because of being hurt is a strong desire. Then the desire to hurt others affects that others are hurt. Then the hurting of others brings forth that more people want to hurt other people.

By the way, be thankful if you have been abused:

9 Let the lowly brother glory in his exaltation, 10 but the rich in his humiliation, because as a flower of the field he will pass away. 11 For no sooner has the sun risen with a burning heat than it withers the grass; its flower falls, and its beautiful appearance perishes. So the rich man also will fade away in his pursuits.

Those who have not known the richness of suffering do not know the richness of hope-- "Let the lowly brother glory in his exaltation". Anybody who has been free of suffering will have no reason to hope for something better than suffering, for redemption, and for salvation.

Happy Thanksgiving and Merry Christmas (And this Yehudit celebrates both Thanksgiving-- Yom L'Toda-- and Christmas-- Chag Mashiach.).