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Saturday, March 25, 2017

As The Old Jewish Saying Goes, And As I've Lived Especially Of Late...

What's keeping calm when you're Jewish? What's not worrying when you're Jewish?

As for me and being a Jewish Christian, I get the whole "Do not worry", "Come to Me, you whom are weary...", "Cast your cares...", etc.. Notwithstanding that (and here goes the "Oh, you of little faith"):

  1. Having Cerebral Palsy and IBS affects worry for good reason.
  2. Having OCD/Anxiety and ADD affects worry for good reason. By the way, I'm actually not the first one to have made an observation regarding whether OCD/Anxiety is inherently Jewish, and I was joking about that more to cope with my own OCD and wondering (so much for Jewish humor, as I got a hard time for making that observation)—the schtick about (I kid you not) OCD being a "Jewish disease" (as Dr. Avigdor Bonchek phrased the schtick whether OCD is Jewish) has been around for a long time. To be fair, look at, e.g., B'midbar 7 alone—having to be perfectly scrupulous about the right number of the right offerings like that could cause anyone to worry—then look at Vaiykra 11 and B'midbar 19—I myself (assuming that I'd survived birth and even had some part in Jewish life) would be washing and extra washing all day. Then try the fences around Torah. Overtime, that has to get embedded into one's genetic code and/or brain chemistry—thus, I think, part of why God desires mercy over sacrifice and obedience over burnt offerings, as His point seemed to be that ritualism as opposed to simply living by faith (e.g., "walk[ing] humbly with your God").
  3. Getting the amount of hate that I get (as I probably will over the observation above, for example), whether rightly or wrongly, affects me to always worry for good reason—even, e.g., who's going to unfriend me on Facebook or unfollow me on Twitter, thus reflecting online how what they think of me both online and offline? After all (as Curt Schilling of all people stated), people online are who they are offline and what they would be offline "if they could get away with it" (which he stated after two of his daughter's high-school classmates used Twitter to send her rape threats.
I could give more examples, though I think that three examples suffice—especially as I brace myself and bide to see how many more instances of Example Three will happen even over the next couple of minutes, especially in regard to Example Two. 

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

What The Outsider Looking In On Debbie Reynolds' and Carrie Fisher's Deaths Knows For Sure

  • A strong mother-daughter bond like they had cannot withstand the death of the daughter without the mother's death soon thereafter.
  • Given Debbie Reynolds' and Carrie Fisher's mother-daughter bond, Debbie Reynolds' death certificate ought to read something like:
"Cause Of Death: Stroke
"Due to: Medical distress
"Due to: Mental and emotional distress
"Due to: Recent death of daughter
"Contributing factor: Compromised cerebral artery
"Contributing factor: Age of decedent"
  • Debbie Reynolds was 84 and lost her 60-year-old and only daughter, and firstborn child a day before. She also lost a colleague and frequent collaborator when she outlived her only daughter and firstborn child.
Meanwhile, keep Debbie Reynolds' and Carrie Fisher's loved ones and friends—including Todd Fisher, Billie Lourd, and Gary Fisher—and everyone else whom's particularly affected by Debbie Reynolds' and Carrie Fisher's deaths in your thoughts and prayers.

Monday, December 12, 2016

Somewhat Offbeat: "Momma" Thinks That She Knows Who Reilly's Two Biggest Fans—Besides "Momma", Camille, Etc.—Are

With a lack of being able to be entirely sure of who is Reilly's biggest fan is, "Momma" thinks that she knows who the two biggest fans are. One of them she knows for sure—although not entirely and with having no clue as to what he wants in terms of whether he wants to be Reilly's "Daddy" or not—and the other one she thinks may be a relative in the Baltimore are, although she's not sure as to which one.

Either way:

  1. Camille is certainly Reilly's best canine friend.
  2. "Momma"'s pretty sure that Reilly would want to meet the main person whom inspired her to write about Reillyand everyone else that gregarious Reilly could meet, despite that she plays hard to get when she first meets someone and likes to show off her machisma de perrita pequeña!
  3. Reilly is "Momma"'s biggest fan—or at least her biggest canine fan!
PS Camille showed once again that she and Reilly are best canine friends.

Friday, October 14, 2016

My Favorite Version Of "Hallelujah", Though I'd Change Some Lyrics—And A Few Reasons Why I'd Change Them

  • I'd switch around "minor" and "major" and "minor fall and major lift".

  • I'd change "but" to "though" for all of the verses
  • I'd change Verse 3 to:
"Baby, I've been here before—I can't count how many times I've walked this God-damned floor—and this was all before I ever really knew ya"

  • I'd add this verse (and if anyone is guessing, you're right that this is a "**** you" to Amy Grant's and her songwriters' incorrect theology—plus, an allusion to Job):
"The LORD, Who gives and Who takes away,
"Deserves my praise; that's all that I'll say—
"And as for your 'broken melody'—well, screw ya!
"And what you've done's worse than how I said
"'If Jesus really rose from the dead,
"'There's nothing 'better than a "Hallelu YAH!"'"

  1. For me, this song doesn't have to necessarily be romantic (or at least exclusively romantic).
  2. My paternal grandfather did not like music (or at least didn't like it until. as I found out later, his final days, to the surprise of my father and my grandmother. When he preferred to watch the live version of "The Sound Of Music" over a football game while he was in the hospital, my father told my sister and me, my father was thinking "Who are you?" and wondering if someone had taken Pop-Pop over.)
  3. I think of every floor that I've walked one too many times (because of, e.g., OCD/Anxiety), and I think of everyone whom's tried to smugly (or however else) lord everything over me (whether they've been right or wrong). I have family members (including belated ones) whom insisted on wanting to think that they were right about everything, etc.
  4. Even though (or because) I'm a Christian, I really dislike (and sometimes even hate, even though I shouldn't hate) the hypocrites and the Bible flouters like the "Better Than A Hallelujah" songwriters—even, e.g., Paul praised Jesus in his weakest moments and the Song in Revelation was a praise, even in so far as the martyrs were (and are, and will be) concerned.
By the way, I probably dislike the hypocrites that much because I'm a Jewish Christian—taking away the Jewish context of the Scriptures will automatically dilute the Holiness of Yehovah in the eyes of others, and taking away (for example) that David and others always (or at least overall) ended with praising Yehovah in even the psalms that were lamentations allows for songs that "are better than a 'Hallelu Yah!'"

Sunday, July 17, 2016

My Basic Twitter Philosophy

  1. If you unfollow me and I am following you, I will unfollow you in turn if I become aware that you have unfollowed me. Since I hold the philosophy that people online are a reflection of whom they are offline (including, as Curt Schilling pointed out, whom they would be offline if they could be that way offline), I have no time for you if you have no time for me, I have, as far as I recall, broken my unfollow-for-unfollow rule only twice, and that includes that I refollowed one person whom'd unfollowed me only because his work in his field is influential enough to merit for him a follow. I will also unfollow you if I recall that you followed me and then unfollowed me after I followed you, whether or not my recollection is correct.
  2. If you abuse me in any way on Twitter—for example, if you twist my words (or similarly libel me) and/or engage in Anti-Semitic attacks—I will report and/or block you.
  3. If you abuse others on Twitter, I will report and/or block you.
  4. RTs are not endorsements unless the original tweet is favorited and/or the RTs are noted as endorsements of the original tweets. What RTs often are is FOIP (for only informational purposes).
  5. While I do "unfollow for unfollow", I do not do "follow for follow"—I follow whom I want to follow, and I will follow those whom follow me if I find them worth following.
  6. While and since I won't, and I really even can't, report every abusive instance and/or block every person whom's engaging in abuse, I will call out someone whom's being abusive if I feel (or at least hope) that I can reason with them. 
  7. I get Twitter notifications via text messages—and I don't have a smartphone, unlike some of these rich kids and others whom can afford smartphones. As soon as I get a chance to respond to and/or RT tweets, I'll respond to them; and be aware that I can see on my phone what abusive tweets you deleted and/or thought that you blocked from my view—and I will report and/or block you, and/or call you out.

Saturday, June 4, 2016

On Missing Someone

Actually. I miss quite a few people—even ones whom hate me and/or couldn't be gladder that I'm out of their lives for whatever reason, and the reason is that they usually cut me off (whether rightly or wrongly) for whatever reasons. I've written about some of these people before, by the way; and I've even yet to write about some of them.

Some of the people whom I miss, for example:

  1. Diane Magruder, whom my sister and I called "Ms. Diane": Ms. Diane was actually the one whom referred us to Reilly's breeder when I was talking about getting a puppy—and she got to meet Reilly before she died. She didn't get to meet Cam, though, although we know that she'll get to meet Cam and see Reilly again one day—and I was thinking about her when I visited Cam's sister Shelby and Shelby's family today, and they talked about how they referred someone to Joyce (Reilly's, Cam's, and Shelby's breeder). When I mentioned how Ms. Diane referred us to Joyce (and how Joyce and other good breeders get a bad name because of pseudo-breeder puppy millers), I also mentioned how Ms. Diane met Reilly on the final day that we saw her—and thought about how she was markedly different after her brother died, which she mentioned, and as ALS took her life, about which we didn't know until we got the call one day from another one of her friends—she wanted to spare us, I suppose, of knowing that she was in the throes of ALS and dying from it.
  2. Many family members, quite a few whom I too often took for granted. To be fair, I'm still dealing with a lot of my own issues (and some of the family members had their own issues, as well as common issues, in regards to other family members); and there were other factors which contributed to hardly being able to see them, etc.. Still, I never even got to see sides of them that others had known or ask them questions that I could've and should've asked when I had the chance.
  3. Quite a few family friends, including to whom I'd send my writings—including the writings which went into "The Real Stories", and stories about Reilly. While I send pictures of Reilly to two of the friends and I used to be able to send pictures of Reilly to the one friend (the dear friend, father figure, and writing mentor to whom I a biography of Reilly which I wrote for writing practice), having sent them pictures of Reilly as well as e-mailing my writings to them is not the same as being able to talk to them face to face. Besides, only one of them has ever met Reilly, and Reilly has yet to meet any of their furbabies (one of whom is an elder of Reilly, a Golden Retriever named Angel).
As far as I know, by the way, Reilly does and would love them all—as she's certainly loved the ones whom she's met, even though she won't see some of them again until the World To Come comes.

One of the stories that I sent regards when Reilly escaped to see Leo (which happened shortly before the first anniversary of her homecoming). 

Friday, May 27, 2016

One Of Those "I Couldn't Have Made This Up" Genealogical Finds (With Edits On May 29-30, June 5, and June 21, 2016)

When I was looking up Great-Granduncle Ed (Edward Leonard Czarnecki, z"l) and found an Edward J. Czarnecki whom (I think, or at least thought) was buried in the city in which Great-Great-Granduncle Teofil lived, I found this little tidbit (As I said, I couldn't have made this up.): he was registered in the service at in Upper Darby and lived in Havertown, and a dear friend of mine to whom I haven't talked in a while (and a childhood friend of my mom and her family) has associations with both cities.

I did end up finding his FindAGrave record (or at least I thought that I did; if so, it's a record) which I'm having trouble locating now, and Great-Great-Granduncle Teofil's trail has turned up dead ends since (from what I've gathered) he legally kept "Czarnecki" but used his wife's name (Kwiatkowski) on Census records. For whatever reason, he didn't like us—and I can imagine what reasons. Shver zu zein a Tshernetski.

By the way, Edward Leonard Czarnecki in Pittsburgh is (as far as I know) related, despite that the Pittsburgh (actually, Carnegie) branch did not keep in touch with us. Since Pop-Pop did not keep in touch with his uncles' and aunts' branches by the time that I was born, anyway, we weren't going to keep in touch with the other branches unless I began to research if we're Jewish and I had talked those such as Granduncle Tony (whom did say that there were Czarnecki, Charnetski, etc. families in the area that were unrelated to us; though I'm pretty sure that at least one of them was related and perhaps not speaking to us, and the ones who truly were not related were Charnitskis, etc. from Austria Hungary or "Czechoslovakia"—though then again, some of those Charnitskis, etc. could've been lying and/or related after all. Besides, Ignacy Andrulewicz lied and said that he was from Bohemia, not Orlinek in what is now Podlaskie, Poland.

(Also, Granduncle Tony was probably told that they weren't related, unless he did know and—once again—was going to either deny it or keep his mouth shut because of his older brother Jack.)

After all, as I've said, I didn't know Great-Granddad's real story until much later, and I thus did not know that all of those branches existed. By the way, the Charnogurskys, etc. are related to the Trudnak Czarneckis; so, ignore the "Charnogursky", etc. results in the Charnitski, etc. search as cited above.).

I should add, too, that even though many of us were in the Pale, many of us were Anusim and risktakers otherwise; and particularly the Andrulewiczes traveled—and we probably got away with it because we are kohanim.

Incidentally, I wonder if the following person from Havertown is the dear friend and Mom's childhood friend in question (Only God ultimately knows. :-) )

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PS As I keep remembering what relevant info I have and find other relevant info, e.g., I'll add some of it. I know that, e.g., some Czarneckis (Czernieckis, etc.) and related branches did end up or were already in Philadelphia and the surrounding counties—e.g., Great-Grandaunt Celia's branch and Granduncle Jim's branch ended up in Bucks, and I gather that part of it's that other branches were already there; some Andrulewiczes and Margiewiczes (Morgiewiczes, etc.) were already in Philadelphia; and the Carnegie branch's patriarch (Great-Great-Granddad's cousin Joseph) was born in Zakąty.

Meanwhile, I have a Danilowicz relative whom ended up in Havertown (I wonder if he knew my family friend.).