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Thursday, March 12, 2015

A Virgin's Comment On "18 Things About Losing Your Virginity That No One Ever Told You"

I'm quite sure that some of these people were zoned out or even deliberately flouting their parents, sex-ed teachers, clergypersons, etc.; and that some were even ignoring the culture around them (I'm not talking about rape victims, by the way—they did nothing to bring rape upon themselves, no matter what anyone tells them. "No" means "No".).

I'm a 25-year-old virgin, and I know quite a few of those things—save it for someone that you care about, "sex doesn't mean love", "how vulnerable [one feels]", one can lose his or her virginity homosexually (If one didn't know that, he or she must've believed "It depends on what your definition of 'is' is."), the use of too much...eh...product, "It's not like the movies."—all of those are common sense.

I've heard the heartbreak stories; I saw some right in front of me (e.g., A classmate at my community college clearly allowed him- or her-self to be used by a player; and he or she was obviously heartbroken when he or she was talking about what happened.); I hear about them all the time in the news, etc..

I've heard about and heard, and seen the same kinds of stories with non virgins who repeated their past mistakes or made similar ones. I'm even the product of quite a few, including the ones of which all Jews are products (Ya'akov's quadigamy), all b'nei-Yehudah are products (since Yehudah's only sons to have descendants were Peretz and Zerach), and all of John Allan's descendants (including the sons of Gabrielle Patterson Allan) are products (Do the research; there was no love lost between the philandering widower and his second wife.).

Listen to the "prudes", those "who need to get laid"/"who need to get some", etc.—we (including us virgins who've somehow been able to be wise enough to save ourselves) are trying to spare you heartbreak—and many of us have had enough heartbreak that didn't include giving ourselves at the wrong time and place, and/or to the wrong people.

Saturday, December 28, 2013

"First World Problems": Some Are Actually Legitimate Problems

What is behind closed doors, Domestic violence is not just a third-world problem

After a YouTube video on BuzzFeed's channel that would have been generally funny until Buzzfeed made fun of the last "first-world problem" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GjIHQuZEfmY), a conversation started; and let me tell you, I had insight to give to that conversation—in fact, the latest episode of my being abused and misunderstood includes being told to "get over it" when I finally confronted my dad on my granddad's laudatory and otherwise-mostly-dishonest obituary (Let me tell you, being listed after my stepsisters, having two maternal relatives and a co-worker of Mom's talk about it, and having debated over who wrote the obituary hurts—especially when you figure out that no matter who wrote the obituary, your granddad let everyone know that his son's stepdaughters are more important than his own grandchildren.).

Then, while I was doing a Google search and browsing, I came across this "First World Problems" meme picture—and one that I've seen used in relation to domestic violence. Then I was reminded of the conversation on YouTube—and that's how this meme came about.
I'm amazed and stunned that DIY LOL would use a picture like this to both mock legitimate problems and satirize "first world problems" that could actually, believe me or not, be the final straws that break the camels' backs for some. Then again, maybe I couldn't raise domestic-violence (e.g., emotional-abuse) awareness if they didn't do so.