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Showing posts with label fathers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fathers. Show all posts

Monday, April 17, 2017

An Example Of A Hurt That Only Truth Can Heal (To At Least Some Extent)

"Notwithstanding the opportunity to reach for a better outcome, there was no need for Jonathan, or for us, his parents, to live in shame, and certainly no benefit in living with the weight of such a lie."

This is the exact opposite of how my father feels; and this is notwithstanding that I inherited his OCD/Anxiety, Depression, and ADD. I found out from one of his maternal cousins that his paternal grandfather committed suicide, not died of Black Lung. When I confronted Dad, he gave the excuse that I was too young to know the truth about Great-Granddad's death; and this is despite that the sons of my Granduncle Tony (z"l) was honest with his own children upfront about how their grandfather died, meaning that Dad could've been as honest with me as Granduncle Tony was with his children.

Too often, people who have other things that they want to hide, hide whatever they can with bubbe meises instead of telling the stranger-than-fiction truth; and it has only "certainly no benefit in living with the weight of such a lie." In fact, the bubbe meises make it worse, especially when the truth hits—and when you, for example, ended up in Sheppard Pratt for threatening suicide before you knew what partially explained it: i.e., that your father's paternal grandfather actually committed suicide and passed on his Depression to your grandfather (and you've figured out that your late grandfather had Depression, and that he passed it on to his oldest child), your father, and you.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

No...You Think, Alec Baldwin?

Blaming other people for your verbal and other abuse only damages your daughter more, by the way:

"'It’s thrown in your face every day. There are people who admonish me, or attack me, and use that as a constant spearhead to do that. It’s a scab that never heals cause it’s being picked at all the time by other people. My daughter, that’s hurt her in a permanent way.'”

Of course verbal-abuse and other-abuse survivors (and others whom were affected, such as primary and secondary witnesses) never forget—we may forgive, though it may take a long time and we may relapse into unforgiveness; and we may not hold grudges (which is what "forgive and forget" really means*, although part of relapsing into unforgiveness includes relapsing into holding grudges); but what we won't forget, even when specific instances are far enough in the back of our minds, in our subconsciouses, or repressed altogether and in the inaccessible parts of our memories.


*It's as when God says that He'll "remember [our] sins no more" and that love "keeps no record of wrongs"—in other words, He won't hold what we did against us; but He doesn't forget what we did.

Monday, December 12, 2016

Without Trying To Be Funny, Crude, Or Ugly...

I have to ask what will happen if Trump ends up getting Alzheimer's Disease and does end up becoming POTUS (with "P" being "Premier" at the still-bad best, and the "P" being replaced altogether by an "F" at worst).

After all, Trump's father died of Alzheimer's; and I'm sadly pretty sure that Alzheimer's made Fred Trump worse—and let's face that  Alzheimer's, which even affected my stepgrandfather to (for example) call his beloved wife a "dumb bunny", can affect or increase negative behavior (and my stepgrandfather had never verbally abused or otherwise mistreated her before he had Alzheimer's, by the way).

Can you imagine, then, what will happen if Donald Trump becomes POTUS and has Alzheimer's while he's in office—as if his behavior isn't bad enough without his having Alzheimer's? By the way, one reason to hope that reincarnation is not real is the possibility that Barron Trump—or anyone else—would be Fred Trump reincarnated!

Meanwhile, here's—sadly—an example of how erratic someone with Alzheimer's can act as they deal with being ravaged by Alzheimer's:




In conclusion, therefore, I ask you to think about what the Fred Trump-inspired son of Fred Trump will do if he's inherited his father's Alzheimer's and it ever sets him off—after all, it's set off good men like my late stepgrandather and the late Bob Murrell—imagine if it sets off the already-racist, -sexist, -xenophobic, -ableist, -nepotistic, -sociopathic, -dictatorial, and -Anti-Semitic Donald Trump—bad men + Alzheimer's Disease = bad combinations!

Thursday, July 17, 2014

"Honoring Our Fathers"

Conversely, the dads need to be responsible dads in the first place. Think about Stuart Dauermann's comment to Jews for Jesus' David Brickner regarding the exploitative "That Jew Died For You" video. In this case, we could take "That Jew Died For You" for especially fathers who abuse (e.g., commit violence against and/or neglect) to their children and/or their childrens' mothers in the name of God and "well-deserved backlash...and...comments that are piling up" for "a pop culture that constantly disrespects and mocks fathers."

"You will discover that your message is not getting across, but that people are repelled, disgusted, and enraged. Paul reminds us that it is no compliment when “the name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.” [Romans 2:24]"

In the same way that Anti-Semitic gentiles and Anti-Messianic Jews eagerly use "That Jew Died For You" to turn Jews away from Jesus, so the world eagerly bashes the role of fatherhood because of especially so-called "Judeo-Christian", "red-blooded God-and-country" heads of households who are more than willing to (for example, and quite classically) twist verses such as Ephesians 5:22 and 6:1-3 (the latter of which got twisted on me constantly by my self-hating and abusive dad—who at least, by the way to his credit, would find "That Jew For You" highly unacceptable. After all, keep in mind that this the guy who deliberately drew a swastika just to throw it into his lit fireplace when I was having an OCD flareup one time.).