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Showing posts with label mourning. Show all posts
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Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Originally On Writerbeat: Just Like Going To a Normative Jewish Funeral And Saying, "Do You Know Yeshua?"...

Some are using the Daesh terror attack against Brussels to push their own agendas. One of the agendas is Muslimophobia*. Another is Trumpism. Still another is blaming the EU for allowing in Middle Eastern refugees—aka, victim shaming—and still another is xenophobia and racism**.

Now is the time to simply comfort, console, grieve with, and support the Belgians—just like my role at a Normative (i.e., Non-Messianic) Jewish funeral would be to comfort fellow mourners among Tzion v'Yerushalayim, not ask "Do you know Yeshua?" or "Did [the decedent] know Yeshua?" or "Since [the decedent] died without knowing Yeshua, [he or she] is not in Heaven. Would you like to know how to stay out of Hell and avoid [the decedent]'s fate?"

Those who incite Muslimophobia, use Belgium's 9/11 to promote Donald Trump, or engage in shaming the Belgians and stereotyping are no better than, e.g., Jesus For Jesus under opportunistic and Holocaust-exploiting David Brickner or people whom go onto the comments section of "Times of Israel" articles about murder victims to proselytize—whom would similar to me were I to start giving the whole "Let me tell you about Yeshua" schpiel at, e.g., an Orthodox Jewish funeral (which is akin to what has happened in "Times of Israel" comments sections, with one incident in which a friend of a decedent's family friend had to get involved and ask people to refrain from proselytizing).


*Note that I did not say "Islamophobia". I grant that moderate Muslims are really Reform/Liberal/secular Mohammedans—and Jews in Poland were called "Mosaics", similarly and by the way; so, with all due respect, get over your political correctness. By the way, you could call Daesh, Al Qadea, etc. Orthodox Mohammedans or Ultra-Orthodox Mohammedans, since Mohammed was a violent man. By alienating Reform/Liberal/Secular Mohammedans ("moderate Muslims") are you going to help fight against Orthodox Mohammedism and Ultra-Orthodox Mohammedism?

**Stereotyping all Middle Eastern refugees as Mohammedans is wrong and may even be Anti Semitic in some cases, though you can be my guest if you want to risk labeling Jadid al-Islam (Mizrahi Anusim) and other Non Mohammedans, including Egyptian Jews and gentile Coptic Christians.

Monday, September 30, 2013

I Dedicate This To the Foczkos, Etc. Who Were Never Properly Mourned, And...



That includes those of us who went through becoming Anusim and going through the Shoah (such as little Joszef Foczko of blessed memory). "El Male Rachamim" is a prayer that is recited in memory of the deceased in the Ashkenazi Jewish community. Shlomo Katz HaKohen sang this version.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

I'm Going To Get Into Trouble For Republishing A Shiva Notice, And...

In Great-Grandma's words, "I want to talk about it." I am not repeating the family patterns again. Some Czerneckis may cover anything up, not talk about certain matters, etc.. So, let me begin by republishing of the shiva notice by saying the following:

My cousins are not wanting us to talk about my aunt's suicide attempt. They also held her back from confronting my dad and his parents. Is that Dad lied when he said that Aunt Mary wanted to see him and her parents possible? Yes. However, Great-Grandma (as Aunt Mary herself told me, and as she herself witnessed when Great-Grandma told her and Uncle Gary to leave the room so that she could talk to Pop, Great-Grandma) was not adverse to confronting Pop-Pop before she died; so, I could believe that Aunt Mary wanted to see her brother and parents, and confront them.

We Czerneckis don't talk about that stuff according to family pattern; and my cousins are repeating the family pattern. Also, one of them is mad that they went to talk to his dad (my ex uncle) about something regarding my aunt. Understandable, but then let your mom give them Hell, K. (and you know which one you are).

I do not know how she is, by the way. All I know is that she's in "rehab"--whatever that actually means, now that I think about it. It could be rehab and recovery; it could be an institution (like Mom suggested); it could be God knows what else. Besides, I'd like to see the suicide note and know what I did to affect her to try to commit suicide--I know that I had a part in it. Did I talk about the family issues too much? Or not enough?

Regardless of what Mom says, I know that I had something to do with it. Like I said, "Did I talk about the family issues too much? Or not enough?" Either way, I'm just glad that I ended up sitting shiva for her when I did. When I couldn't reach her and she completely cut everyone off (and I thought that she was cutting just me off for no reason or something), I sat shiva for an hour symbolically. Little did I know that it would end up meaning something.

She doesn't even know that I did, that I sat shiva, though--or if she does, maybe that's what drove her to do it. I'd like to know, and I was of course angry that she cut me off without telling me why. How was I supposed to know what was going on? Also, do you think that, that I broke down on Monday partly over your mother's suicide attempt is fair, K. and K.? You're not the only ones grieving.

Shiva Notice For Aunt and Ashkenazi Levite Republished

HURSDAY, MAY 23, 2013

Shiva Notice For Aunt and Ashkenazi Levite

Mary Joan Miskell nee Czarnecki, born May 14, 1962 (the 18th Gregorian Anniversary of the founding of her homeland). Born among the Jewish Diasporan community and in Glen Burnie, Maryland, Mrs. Miskell was the daughter of John "Jack" and Joan (nee Gajdos) Czarnecki. Through Joan's maternal grandmother's family (the Foczkos, among the Jewish Diasporan and Crypto-Jewish communities in Poland, Slovakian Hungary, and the United States), Mary (who was named in part for her Levitical grandmother, Marysia "Mary" Gaydos nee Rusnak, a daughter of Juliana "Julia" Rusnak nee Foczkova) was a Matrilineal Levite.

Born into a Crypto-Jewish Roman Catholic family, Mrs. Miskell left Roman Catholicism after her son Ryan (by whom she has been predeceased since May 10, 1991) died. She was unaware that she was a Jewish Christian until the 2000s, and remained in Jesus even after finding out that she was Jewish. She even sent two of her surviving children to a private Christian college.

Last known to have resided in Leesburg, Virginia, she was considered as though she was deceased on May 20, 2013 (Sivan 9-10, 5773; Shavu'ot 5773). Due to circumstances concerning her up to Shavu'ot 5773, whether she was even still physically alive was unable to be established. Because of the circumstances, she is considered deceased for the time being and sorely missed.

Besides her son Ryan, among those who preceded her in passing into the World To Come are her beloved paternal grandmother, Mary Theresa Czarnecki nee Trudnak (the daughter of Mihaly "Michael Trudniak" and Anna Amalia [nee Munkova; Hanna Amal'yah bat-Sz'mu'el-ben-Shlomo] Trudnyak]). Among those who mourn the loss of her are her niece Nicole Czarnecki of Baltimore, Maryland.

Shiva will be sat and "Kaddish" recited in a Messianic style at the home of Nicole Czarnecki on May 25 (Sivan 15). Pray for the Czarnecki and related families at this difficult time.
Mary with her grandmother Mary Trudnak Czarnecki on Easter 1962 or 1963.
Mary Joan Czarnecki Miskell (Miriam Yohanna HaLevit bat-Yohanahn v'Yohanna), z'l (May 14, 1962 - considered May 20, 2013).
 Nicole Czarnecki    


Monday, May 27, 2013

Sitting Shiva Isn't Always About Physical Death

I know this because I'm well read enough and have delved enough into my own family history. Shiva can be sat when:

  1. A child or other relatives intermarries (This happened to the late Ruth McBride Jordan, nee Rachel Deborah Shilsky [Ruchel Dwajra Zylska] when she was even just in a relationship with Dennis McBride.). This normally doesn't happen if a child marries solely a "shvartze"--as the Yiddish pejorative was thrown about back then. This happens if a child marries any gentile who doesn't convert or is not accepted for conversion into Judaism.
  2. A child or other relative converts out of particularly Non-Messianic Judaism into--e.g.--Roman Catholicism (or other so-called "denominations of Messianic Judaism [Christianity]"), even if they remain Non Messianic and are merely Anusim. Sometimes, shiva isn't even sat and there's a rowdy hatefest where the convert's "death" or death is celebrated (See "Evel Rabbati", which takes work to find but is worth fighting. As the Anti Semites like to tripe on about and the Karaites note, this is what the P'rushiyin do not want you to know.). The P'rushiyin particularly hated Jesus, and revisionists like to pretend that another Yeshua is mentioned, but all one has to do is look at Bava Metzi'a 59b and the New Testament to get the idea pretty quickly.
  3. A child or other relative acts so despicably that the circumstances play out as if he or she is dead, would rather be dead, or would be better off as such.
  4. A child or other relative is in circumstances in he or she is dead, would rather be dead, or would be better off as such. For example, a child who is inevitably going to die of terminal cancer and not be miraculously healed may have shiva sat for him ot her early on.
Shiva can always be reversed for the living. For example, Ruth McBride Jordan did get back in touch with one of her cousins who she hadn't seen in years and who was in California. Even relatives who had sat shiva for her (viz. her aunts Mary and Bernadette) had contact with her, even though that contact was telling her that they sat shiva for her and she was to stay out of their lives (which Mary did)--as well as slamming the door in her face when she reached out to them for help (which Bernadette did).

In my own family's case, I have been in touch with Rusnak relatives before. Also, the Czerneckis did write to us once to ask for the deed to be changed. Shiva will also be reversed for Aunt Mary if she ever reaches out to me again (See #3 to give you an idea of what she did. All that I'll say is that, that took hutzpah to cut me off without at least telling me why she would--at least Ruth McBride Jordan's aunt Mary told her that she cut her off and gave her a hint as to why she did.).

Shiva cannot be reversed for the dead (unless they of course miraculously rise again).