Ethical Dilemma—Please Weigh In On What I Should Do!

 I have an ethical dilemma: even though I want to find out exactly what happened to certain relatives of mine, I try to avoid websites that contain domains such as those of Russia and Hungary (that is, such as “ru” and “hu”) because of the Antisemitism at the highest levels of government in those countries. Yet, I cannot in any other way find out exactly what happened to certain relatives. For example, my ancestor Michael Trudnak—né Mihaly Nagy to hidden Jews Mária Nagyová and Mihály Trudnyak—had two sisters whom (as far as I know) never took their father’s name (Even though he recognized all of his children, he refused to marry in a Roman Catholic Church—and all of his children were “illegitimate” as a result). I don’t know what happened to Aurelia/Aranka Nagyová other than than that she married a fellow “illegitimate”-born person (Rudolph Pardutz/Rezso Parducz the son of Jakob Fuchs) and (like her husband) never took the paternal family name; and I don’t know what happened to the sister Maria at all. Nonetheless, I don’t want to go on any Hungarian websites unless I absolutely have to do so; and I even looked up Arcanum to make sure that it was not Hungarian despite its “com” domain. Notwithstanding that, it tears me apart that I don’t know what happened to Great-Great-Granddad’s sisters or their mother—whom did not go to the United States with Great-Great-Granddad and his father (whom left Budapest when Great-Great-Granddad was a teenager). 

I want to know what happened to them and not betray their memories (It was so painful for Great-Great-Granddad, he lied about where and when he was born. He claimed to be born in what is now Kacwin, Poland and gave varying years for when he was born. He was born in Budapest two years after Aranka was born on Dohány Street, and almost three years before the name-honoree Maria was born in a different part of Budapest. His parents had to move each time, and his mother’s family descended from Leváis whom had to become hidden Jews to leave confinement on Óbuda.).