The Nicole Factor: marriage

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Friday, September 6, 2013

Intermarriage...Or Maybe Not

I wonder what they think of "intermarriage" when a gentile who is actually an Anusi or Anusit marries a fellow Jew. The Nagy-Trudnyak and Korsch-Munka couple are a fine example of this. Nobody would've guessed (unless they really were paying attention or weren't in denial) that Mihaly and Anna Munkova Trudnyak were Anusim and bnei Anusim, whether or not they were "meshumadim"--which becomes a long discussion, because then the question becomes whether or not Yeshua would have led them to possible yeshuat had he not had them become Anusim ("possible" meaning that he may have led them, but whether or not they accepted is questionable. Their daughter Mary certainly did; and based on the fact that she even later said that we were Ukrainian [Great-Granddad was born in Cuman during a visit to Vil'gel'm Andrulevich in Buzhanka, and there were Trudnyakovs in Odessa.], I can safely assert that she knew that we are Jews.).

As far as the Trudnyaks, by the way, Anna's brother Ǎǔgǔstinǔs Samuel was the last one to be baptized (There is no baptism record for her, although there is one for the sister for whom she was named--given the birth date, July 27, 1888, that she gave for her own birthdate [which was a day after her sister's baptism date in 1884].). Mihaly and his sister Maria were baptized, but they were descended from Anusim Yosef Eleazar and Rosalia Dudayová and Mária Preczelmayerová, none of whom were baptized at birth.

Saturday, August 17, 2013

Example of Not-So-Obvious Jews: Andrew and Julia Fosko Rusnak

The Rusnaks (Rusznaks, Rosnaks, etc.) were Levites. Gyorgy "György Kvetkovits" and Erzsébet Molnárová Rusznák converted out of P'rushi Judaism during Anti Semitism and self exiled to what is now Zláta Idka. Andrew's dad was Jákáb Rusznák, and the Foczkos were Crypto-Jewish Levites themselves. Andrew even specifically wrote to Juliana Foczková, asking her to come to America and marry him. One can safely assume that this is because Juliana was a Levite, and for several reasons--including that at least some the Rusnaks who stayed in traditional Judaism married intratribally (e.g., Ieshaihau Iehiel HaLevi Rosenblite and Miriam Rosia HaLevit Rosnoková Rosenbliteová ), and there were at least quite a few marriages between the families of Juliana's parents (István Foczko and Johanna Hanzóková Foczková, whose mother was a Lázárová--although whether she was a kohenet and descendant of Ele'azar HaKohein ben-Aharon HaKohein ben-'Amram HaLevi [אלעזר כהן בן אהרן הכהן בן 'עמרם הלוי] cannot be determined). The reasons mentioned hearken to Numbers 36:5-12 (despite the P'rushi attempt to lift of the ban on intertribal marriage).

For more on Anusim (Crypto Jews), see the Jewish Virtual Library's "Anusim".

It reads in part, "In Jewish sources, the term anusim is applied not only to the forced converts themselves, but also to their descendants who clandestinely cherished their Jewish faith, attempting to observe at least vestiges of the *halakhah, and loyalty to their Jewish identity." Anusim and bnei-Anusim like Andrew and Julia could and/or did not observe everything due to dread of Anti Semitism (e.g., "Following the establishment of the Inquisition, Jewish observance by New Christians became dangerous as well as difficult." In the same way in Europe, Andrew's grandparents had to actually be "acquitted" to marry, thus proving their conversion genuine in the eyes of the Slovakian-Hungarian Vaticanist Church.).

Saturday, August 3, 2013

Is There Actually a Beauty In Marrying On Shabbat (Originally On Twitter)?

To get married on Shabbat is actually a nice idea. Marriage represent G-d's covenant with Israel. So does Shabbat--e.g., the day of rest. As someone who married on a Yom Shabbat opined, "I was married on a Saturday evening in summer, just at the beginning of sunset. We wanted to honor Shabbat, and so we did Havdalah first. Our officiant was very traditional and expressed his qualms about starting before sundown. Ultimately, we did the cocktail hour first and pushed the ceremony back as late as we could, and he acquiesced. It wasn't fully dark yet, but it felt like a respectful, if not fully halachic, compromise on both sides. I think that for less observant (or non-observant Jews), that kind of conversation and creativity is more important than observing strict halachic rules and missing the beauty and richness of the tradition, but then again, I'm not frum. For what it's worth, it was the most "Jewish" wedding that I or any of my guests had ever attended. Everyone told me how beautiful and moving it was, and many of our guests asked numerous questions about the traditions, rituals, and prayers they had encountered."

Besides, where in Tanakh can one read that one can't marry on Shabbat--let alone enter into marital contracts on Shabbat or write on Shabbat? Furthermore, the Bride of Yeshua, Heaven as Eternal Shabbat...shalom!

Sunday, May 26, 2013

For Only Fellow Messianic Jews To Answer: About Marriage, Love, Etc.

The B'rit Hadashah reads, "I suppose that in a time of stress like the present it is good for a person to stay as he is. That means that if a man has a wife, he should not seek to be free of her; and if he is unmarried, he should not look for a wife. But if you marry you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin." I am single and have never married, and have already had two crazy exes (the first from August 4, 2004- about May 19 2005, the second from February 26-March 2, 2013), and am not sure what to do in terms of either continuing to wait on the Lord (since waiting for seven years didn't work last time, and I've even had to call the police on both exes, for example) or entering into a Messianic shidduch process. So, what should I do, especially since entering into shidduch may be in violation of "he [or, in my case, she] should not look for a wife [or, in my case, husband]"?

PS If any Anti Messianic answers, I guarantee you that you will be reported for hate speech: you are violating my First, Ninth and Fourteenth Amendment rights. I don't bother you about Non Messianic; you don't bother me about being Messianic. Besides, "if this idea or this movement has a human origin, it will collapse. But if it is from God, you will not be able to stop them; you might even find yourselves fighting God". Also, "You must judge whether it is right in the sight of God to listen to you rather than God."
Gentiles, I need a Jewish perspective because I was raised not knowing that I am Jewish and found out that I am Jewish only in 2008; so I'm well aware of what the gentile perspective is: wait on God; marry for love, etc.. I need to know how to approach my situation Jewishly, especially since my Crypto-Jewish Czarnecki great grandparents found detriment in following the gentile way of marrying for love.

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

I Hope That My Last Blog Entry Was A Lesson For Everybody....

You are not allowed to abuse and persecute me on my own Facebook wall, especially since and when you don't have to even engage what I am sharing.
You are not allowed to violate my First and Ninth Amendment rights, especially when I hold a scientific and religious belief that is legitimate. If you do, I will call you out.
Facebook (and general) literacy is important. If you, for example, persecute me on a public status on my own wall, you will get called out publicly.
If you're a Non-Messianic Jew, you're stuck with the Old Covenant. I did not give Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13, or the rest of the 613 mitzvot on Sinai--Yehovah did. You made the choice to reject Yeshua and obey Moshe (who himself looked to Yeshua's coming, and was punished when he disobeyed Yehovah). So, I will be a watchman and hold you to what you profess.
I don't proselytize, but I do share.
If you're contending with Tanakh (whether or not you consider the B'rit Chadashah a part of it), you're contending with G-d, not me. Look at what happened at Massah and Merivah--and Tanakh wasn't fully revealed yet.

Monday, April 1, 2013

This Persecution, Misunderstanding of Judaism, and Hypocrisy Is Astounding...

And I see that, since I've unblocked this person, she blocked me in turn when I blocked her. I suppose that we blocked each other is actually good. Her name, by the way, is Rebecca "Becca" Borland; and Becca, I'm giving you the opportunity to respond to my response to your persecution of me.

"Okay, so this has popped up on my newsfeed, and I'm definitely not going to just sit by and watch bigotry unfold before my eyes. First of all, this Marie person did NOT threaten you in any way. She said absolutely nothing about harming you, nor does she seem to have verbally harassed you. Her point was that, because you can't respect her basic human rights, she has no reason to respect yours. She wasn't saying that she was going to beat you up. Secondly, if Lauren (I'm assuming that is her preferred name) claims that she is a woman, then she is a woman. You need to respect her preferred pronouns and call her what she wishes to be called. Doing otherwise causes mental and emotional trauma and dysphoria. If you refuse to call her by the appropriate pronouns and names, then I might as well call you a "him" or "Geoffrey". Thirdly, just because you personally believe that homosexuality is wrong doesn't mean that everyone else does. Your personal beliefs shouldn't have negative effects on other people. As they say, "my right to swing my arm stops at your face." This is easily applied to the subject of same-sex marriage. You can disagree with it all you want, but in the end, it has nothing to do with you. Your happiness and their happiness are not mutually exclusive. I think it's time you stepped into the modern age, grew up, and became a bit more open-minded."

First of all, I am not a bigot for believing what Judaism (including Messianic Judaism)--regardless of Reform, Reconstructionist, and other Liberal ("Progressive", Apostate) Judaism has held. Torah unequivocally states, "Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind; it is abomination." and "if a man lie with mankind, as with womankind, both of them have committed abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them."

I have never advocated murdering homosexuals, as I am under the New Covenant; whereas you are under the Old, so killing homosexuals for you would not be murder--think about that! I even stated that some homosexuals were indeed born homosexual, have a thorn in the flesh (See the New Testament if you're interested re thorns in the flesh.), and have chosen to be celibate.

Secondly, Marie did threaten me when I rightly called her boyfriend "'Lauren'", since he is really not "Lauren"--but James. Unless he can fumigate or otherwise change his DNA--so that he has two sets of X Chromosomes--, he is and remains a man and Marie's boyfriend. Therefore, Marie's "like hell I'm going to respect you" if I didn't "respect" her "girlfriend" was a threat to beat the heck out of me.

Thirdly, since you are under the Old Covenant, you should be advocating killing homosexuals for abominations. So, who needs to step into the modern age, grow up, and become a bit more open-minded? You. You have flagrantly, brazenly, and disreputably rejected Yehovah, let alone the Mashiach. I am under mercy and grace, and for bringing homosexuals among others (even people like you) the Gospel; you are for defying the very G-d who created you.

Think before you call me a demode, childish, closed-minded bigot again. I didn't create marriage; Yehovah did. Take marriage up with Yehovah, not me. By the way, I can post whatever I want on my Facebook wall. Who's the childish one for persecuting someone on her own Facebook wall--especially when she's not a friend of hers and has no business engaging her wall posts in the first place?

So, are you going to think before you persecute me again, or are you going to look like a fool and continue to look like a fool? The ball, so to speak, is in your court now.

By the way, If I ever start advocating killing active homosexuals, then you can have a problem with me. In fact, Tanakh says clearly that active homosexuality is an abomination that is punishable by death (cf. Leviticus 18:22-29, 20:13). But since I'm under the New Covenant, I don't advocate killing homosexuals. So, I don't get what the deal with some who are under the Old Covenant is when both covenants say that active homosexuality.

As far as homosexuality in general, it could fall under a thorn in the flesh. See, e.g., 2 Corinthians 12:7-12. Also by the way, I don't want to hear the qualms about Becca's privacy. When Becca made the comment, she did it on a public status. If she didn't want it made public, she should not have posted it on a public status, let alone the public status of a non friend who she was looking to persecute. Besides, I needed to respond. She is technically under the Old Covenant, which advocates the death penalty for homosexuality. So, she's also being a hypocrite by advocating the opposite of what the Old Covenant indicates.

She needs to take responsibility for her comment. I don't have to be stepped on, and I won't be stepped on. I originally took the enabling step of just blocking her and removing her comment. I originally failed to hold her accountable for her persecution and hypocrisy. I could have also taken pains to report her comment to Facebook if I could have reported it another way (since I couldn't report it directly). I didn't.

The days where I do nothing about my abusers and persecutors are over, though. If you are a Non-Messianic Jew who persecutes me about my stance on same-sex marriage, for example, I'm going to tell you that you have to either actually advocate even the death of homosexuals or take up holding yourself to the New Covenant and sharing the Gospels even with homosexuals who might not otherwise be saved if they don't hear that active homosexuality is wrong from you.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

About Homosexual Marriage...

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Flouting G-d's Voice Was A Mistake, And...

Nur wasn't the one. When G-d says "He [a guy, or--in a guy's case--She (a girl)] is not the one", He means it. So, Nur and I are no longer together; and I'm not getting into another relationship unless (G-d willing) a guy is really the one for me, though that breakup was hard on me and Nur. Lesson--to never flout G-d's voice--learned.

Monday, February 25, 2013

The Truth Is That...

If the guy who loves me is of the Jadid Al-Islam and becomes a Christian, I want everything to work out between us. I even did not let him hang out in my room with me because, as I told him, I don't want either or both of us in an awkward position. After all, my roommates (all of whom completely deserve to get locked out of my room, anyway) are not going to be there; so there is nobody there to hold me, him, or both of us accountable. I'm not completely clean in all this.

I'm a little affected by this guy. He's a romantic who (I hope) truly loves me for me (although he, as a Mohammedan, can't possibly love me for me unless he has the Holy Spirit in him--after all, true love of any and every kind comes from G-d, not "Allah" or whoever else). Maybe he is truly predestined to be a Christian and be my bashert (though, as I stated, I will not marry somebody who is not at least 1/16th Jewish--I am not bringing about the Anusi's nightmare of having his or her descendants' lines cut off from Israel.). So, he'd better be Jewish as well. But if he is not a Christian, I categorically and emphatically refuse to even get into a relationship with him.

By the way, he agreed that being alone in my room would put us both in an awkward position and, thus, not be good. So, he knows what is good--even though he has, like all humans (and even those with the Holy Spirit) have, no inherit goodness (and any goodness in any human comes from the Holy Spirit). Therefore, as I stated, I want everything to work out between us if he is of the Jadid Al-Islam and becomes a Christian.

Someone's Way Too In Love (Written A Way While Back, Though My Opinion Of Ann, etc. Is Unchanged)

Without giving his name, I can tell you that someone's way too in love with me. Firstly, we have different goals in life. He plans to name his sons (as I recall) "Mohammed" and "Ibrahim"; I'm planning to name mine (if I have any sons) Bernie (unless I name a dog "Bernye" for Great-Granduncle Bernie and Barney Bush) and Julian or Julius (And to Ann McGill-Mones, you're crazy if you think that I've forgotten--and I'm not sorry to break to you that your in-law cousin Paschal Danilowicz is Jewish, a part of my family [since he is a part of the Krasne Danilowiczes], and will always be Jewish and a part of my family--even though he was religiously Catholic and is no longer here on this Earth.).

As for daughters, I don't think that this guy plans on having any. I, on the other hand and if I have daughters, plan to name at least one "Alexandria Alice" and another "Mary" (maybe "Mary Theresa" for Great-Grandma Czarnecki, but "Mary" for both Aunt Mary and Great-Grandma Czarnecki)--or maybe "Maryam", so that no confusion arises (After all, Mary's original name was "Maryam bat-Eli".).

As far as both genders go, no variant of "Mohammed" will ever be on my lips. I could live with naming a boy "Ibrahim", though, since it's a variant of "Avraham". But never will I name a child, boy or girl, any variant of "Mohammed".

This guy is also a Mohammedan who spends more time around his Syrian-Albanian-Turkish Mohammedan dad and other Mohammedan relatives. Granted that his family could be a part of the Jadid Al-Islam (the Mizrahi equivalent of Marranos [Sephardim] and Ashkenazim Anusim [and what you would call us really depends on what country you go to; but you would call us some equivalent of "New Christians"]). After all, he doesn't know what his family practiced before they converted to Mohammedism. Nonetheless, he is a devout Mohammedan (not Orthodox, but--if you will--Reform ["Moderate"] Mohammedan).

He also comes from an interfaith home. I've mentioned his dad; and as for his mom, I've been told by him that she is an Irish-Italian Methodist. As for me, I also come from an interfaith home (in which the dad is an Ashkenazi Anusi, and the mom is a PCA Presbyterian who is a mainly-Irish-Catholic-turned-Episcopalian of Jewish descent--which she sadly couldn't give two s**ts about). I'm amazed that his home hasn't broken up yet; whereas my Anusi dad has been divorced from my mom since 1998, and ironically remarried to a Southern Baptist since 2004 (and, as far as I know, a gentile Southern Baptist at that). So, I don't want another broken home in my line (and mine isn't the only one; trust me.).

I also, especially if he's not of Jadid al-Islam or otherwise of Jewish descent, don't plan on marrying him and getting my line cut off from Israel. Unless the Pundts aren't the only ones who are Jewish on Mom's side (and as far as I know and can confirm, Mom-Mom's generation is the final Jewish generation [1/16th Jewish]), I risk further cutting my line off from Israel on Mom's side. As for Dad's side, we've had (and we're having) close brushes with being cut off from Israel, and complete cutoffs from Israel. Dad was blessed (even if won't acknowledge that he) was blessed to be born of two Anusim who surprisingly weren't born of goyim, but were born of other Anusim

(And especially if neither of them were specfically seeking out other Anusim, that they found each other is a miracle. Then again, I highly doubt that the daughter of Michael "We're Russian" Gaydos and the son of pogrom survivor Anthony Czarnecki weren't seeking out fellow Anusim--after all, Michael Gaydos made a bold move to implicitly identify with Soviet Jewry during the Cold War, and Anthony Czarnecki's mother went absolutely meshuga over her ben marrying who she considered the shiksa Mary Trudnak. Also, Anthony's son Tony was criticized for marrying Mary Ellen Jones--"She's Irish!" So, I'd be even more surprised if Joan Gaydos and John "Jack" Czarnecki weren't seeking fellow Anusim for themselves.).

In conclusion, this guy who loves me way too much obviously loves me way too much--and way too much so for each and both of our goods. He ought to find a Mohammedan girl who will love him or a Methodist girl who's willing to get into an interfaith and interethnic marriage. I myself plan to find a Jewish Christian who will love me and make sure that my line is not cut off from Israel.

By the way, b'hatzlacha to my family who brush close to or past the 1/16th mark--I am not at fault if your descendants are merely gentiles of Jewish descent. Alexandria Czarnecki, Michael Gaydos, and others did not entirely drop their Jewishness when they became Anusim--they may not have gotten their wish that their b'nei v'banot would revert to being openly-Jewish Non-Messianic Jews (which was the wish of at least the Non-Messianic Anusim), but let's make sure that they didn't die as Anusim in vain (and while only the Non-Messianic Anusim would consider having believing descendants to be a sign that they died in vain, all of them would consider having gentile descents and their lines cut off from Israel as a sign that they died in vain).