For Only Fellow Messianic Jews To Answer: About Marriage, Love, Etc.

The B'rit Hadashah reads, "I suppose that in a time of stress like the present it is good for a person to stay as he is. That means that if a man has a wife, he should not seek to be free of her; and if he is unmarried, he should not look for a wife. But if you marry you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin." I am single and have never married, and have already had two crazy exes (the first from August 4, 2004- about May 19 2005, the second from February 26-March 2, 2013), and am not sure what to do in terms of either continuing to wait on the Lord (since waiting for seven years didn't work last time, and I've even had to call the police on both exes, for example) or entering into a Messianic shidduch process. So, what should I do, especially since entering into shidduch may be in violation of "he [or, in my case, she] should not look for a wife [or, in my case, husband]"?

PS If any Anti Messianic answers, I guarantee you that you will be reported for hate speech: you are violating my First, Ninth and Fourteenth Amendment rights. I don't bother you about Non Messianic; you don't bother me about being Messianic. Besides, "if this idea or this movement has a human origin, it will collapse. But if it is from God, you will not be able to stop them; you might even find yourselves fighting God". Also, "You must judge whether it is right in the sight of God to listen to you rather than God."
Gentiles, I need a Jewish perspective because I was raised not knowing that I am Jewish and found out that I am Jewish only in 2008; so I'm well aware of what the gentile perspective is: wait on God; marry for love, etc.. I need to know how to approach my situation Jewishly, especially since my Crypto-Jewish Czarnecki great grandparents found detriment in following the gentile way of marrying for love.