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Monday, October 23, 2017

Abuse Is Never "Normal Stuff", Even In the ***** Era

"I'm beginning to think you...crucified your father for normal stuff!"

Without going into details about what affected that statement for whatever reason, I will say that I was appalled when someone said that to me—abuse is never "normal stuff", and all kinds of abuse are out of the norm—at least in a reasonable and decent society, abuse is (relatively, anyway) out of the norm.

No society in this world is going to be entirely reasonable and decent. After all, as Thomas Hobbes observed, life is short, nasty, and brutish; and "kings and persons of sovereign authority, because of their independency, are in continual jealousies and in the state and posture of gladiators, having their weapons pointing, and their eyes fixed on one another, that is, their forts, garrisons, and guns, upon the frontiers of their kingdoms, and continual spies upon their neighbours: which is a posture of war. "

That nonetheless does not cause any kind of abuse to be "normal stuff", regardless of whether it's the kind of abuse that I endured from my father (which at least, thank God, was never sexual abuse) or the following examples of abuses that others have endured:


  1. The "casting couch"—Harvey Weinstein's and others' victims did not want (let alone ask) to be sexually harassed and abused; and they shouldn't have to choose between careers and being abused, between silence to avoid further abuse and between speaking out and enduring further abuse, or between anything else and abuse. Having to choose between anything and abuse, by the way, is being put in an abusive position.
  2. The "condolence" call that Myeisha Johnson received. What ***** stated was basically, "Your husband knew why he signed up, and we can never repay him or any other American military member whom sacrifices his or her life for the United States; so I'm not even going to try to repay what I can."
  3. The follow up to the "condolence" call. Especially Myeisha Johnson did not need libel and slander against her; and Representative Frederica Wilson did not need the libel and slander, either.
  4. The threats of racist and sexist violence against Congresswoman Wilson—as I said, abuse is neither normal nor in the norm in a reasonable and decent society, which is not the kind of society which Congresswoman Wilson's abuser would like to bring back.
In conclusion, then, only abusive societies have ever treated, ever treat, and will ever treat abuse as normal and normalizable. 




More On Wanting To Explain Things To Reilly—Whom, By the Way, Would Be A Ravens Fan For Halloween, But...


That might be too scary until the Ravens shape up, and Reilly and Camille live in a house where any Halloween costumes are either of the following:


  1. Cute and/or celebratory—e.g., such as dressing up as a fan of a football team, like one relative of Reilly's and Camille's happens to be doing this year (though of course his or her human family will dress him or her up, and "Momma"/"Auntie Nicole" won't say what team to protect everybody's privacy).
  2. Not over-the-line or too-scary-of-which-to-make-light-of-even-on-Halloween scary. "Momma" even thought about dressing up Reilly as a ghost until the idea that Reilly would have to be dressed up in white got in the way (and "Momma" will not use certain colors, even for cards with Reilly in them, in this era if she doesn't have to do so, especially she does not want things taken out of context. Besides, another color would be confusing—unless Camille would be Ms. Pacman [and there's a morbid one—i.e., with a puppy dressed as a character that would eat the character as which the other puppy is dressed]).
By the way, that's part of what "Momma" wishes that she could explain to Reilly in terms beyond terms that one would use when he or she would talk to puppies, whom are intellectually equivalent to human toddlers. In other words, "Momma" wishes that she could go beyond using terms such as "very mean" and "not nice" when she refers to racists and other bigots when she's talking to Reilly, and she wishes that she Reilly could understand terms such as "racist" without her having to elaborate in puppy terms on what "racist" means—i.e., without having to say something like, "'Racist' means somebody who hates somebody else because of his or her skin color or ethnicity [and then having to elaborate in puppy terms on what 'ethnicity' means, since puppies don't have memories like humans do and won't remember what 'ethnicity' means unless they are told about it repeatedly overtime]."

Why The Eagles May Be The New Football Team For Whom I Root


  1. Embarrassing the U.S. internationally (i.e., in the United Kingdom) was wrong (and that goes for the Jaguars, too). 
  2. I have paternal roots in Pennsylvania (and regardless of whom likes it or hates it, Jewish roots where my ancestors felt safer as Anusim in the U.S. than as Anusim or open Jews in Europe. As a Jew, then, I have to ask fellow Jews and others to remember that we'd all have to kneel if every persecuted group had to kneel—even WASPs aren't exactly as White as they'd like to think. Besides, one of the great Phillies players was Jewish—his father and one of my great-great-grandmothers were maternal siblings through Anna Haszlinsky Uszinskyova nee Jasova.). 
  3. On the note in Point Two: if any group should be kneeling, Jews should be. However, regardless of our various beliefs—as a Jew is a Jew regardless of whether he or she is religiously traditionally Jewish, Buddhist, or something else—many (if not most) of us have been able to recognize that the "Judeo-Christian" country that the U.S. is often actually not has been—at least up to this point—one of the Diaspora safehavens for Jews and allies of Jews compared to multiple countries throughout history.
  4. This is (as I recall) another loss in a row for the Ravens since the Ravens-Jaguars game (Divine Justice against the Ravens for being ingrates?).
  5. I might root again for the Ravens when I see the Ravens players kneeling for the Baltimore Police and not Freddie Gray or other criminals, such as the toadie of a certain late priest—since they're kneeling for one criminal, they're kneeling for other criminals.

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Somewhat Offbeat: When "Momma" Wishes That She Could Explain Things To Reilly Like She Can To Some Humans

As "Momma" has written, she has told and explained things to Reilly in ways that one can tell and explain things to puppies. She (as she recalls that she has) also written that she sometimes wishes that she could tell and explain things to Reilly and she can tell and explain things to humans.

Without going into details, "Momma" will say that today is definitely one of those days (especially as she and Reilly get another Gregorian month older). Of course, the only drawback would be that Reilly might be able to tell "Mom-Mom", "Auntie Michelle", Camille, and everyone else what "Momma" said, since Reilly's reasoning like a human could be in tandem with her communicating like one—after all (at least as "Momma" believes), an equine compatriot of Reilly was given enough knowledge and communication skills to tell Ba'alam something that he needed to know, wasn't she?

PS For some reason, Reilly ended up liking to relax like this when "Momma" (surprisingly, and surprisingly with her cooperation) was able to roll her over for a belly rub. "Momma" could not get her to not lay on her ear! 







Saturday, October 21, 2017

Somewhat Offbeat: Reilly's Gregorian Month Birthday

Reilly's Gregorian month birthday (October 25th) falls:


  1. Five days after Shelby's Gregorian yearly birthday (Happy Birthday again, Shelby!)
  2. Two days after "Momma"'s Gregorian month birthday (October 23rd—just, by the way, in time for "Momma" to ache and feel tired due to exhaustion and/or a cold and/or the flu that's about to come.)
  3. In between her "Great-Great-Granddad" Czarnecki's Gregorian yearly birthday (and she turned seven months old on what would've been his 110th yearly birthday) and her "four-times-removed cousin" Katherine's Gregorian yearly birthday (and Katherine could've lived to 120 this year had Breast Cancer not cruelly taken her when she was about four months short of 52).  
  4. Two days before Camille's Gregorian month birthday.
PS: Reminder: if you are not breeding your female puppy, please have her spayed unless you want to risk that she would get canine mammary cancers!




Friday, October 20, 2017

A Mental-Illness Flareup And A Laugh That "Auntie Nicole" Needed Courtesy Of Camille

Once again, an understanding Reilly has endured as "Momma" has gone through another draining mental-illness flareup due to heartbreak and other flareup triggers of late. Even yesterday, Reilly dealt with as "Momma" (embarrassingly and to her surprise) overslept when she napped with her.

Camille, meanwhile, inadvertently came to a momentary rescue when "Auntie Nicole"/"Momma" went to give her and Reilly their nightly grooming with the electric toothbrush: she boldly stole the treats that "Auntie Nicole"/"Momma" put  on the family room coffee table when she sat down on the couch to begin grooming Reilly (whom was on her lap first), and she stole them right in front of her!

Of course, poor Reilly had to get treats to make up for the ones that Camille stole from her!

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

#TheManeEvent, Frontline® Plus And A Worried "Momma"/"Auntie Nicole", And A Dramatic Description Again




  1. "Momma" plans for Reilly to dress up as something that'll make Halloween "the mane event" of October 2017 for Reilly—or at least "the mane event" of the October-into-November 2017 week—and sans haircut (despite that Maltipoos actually have mixed/single coats. By the way, shaving puppies with layered/double coats is a bad idea
  2. Long story short: despite that the Frontline® Plus had been applied 30-45 minutes before "Auntie Nicole"/"Momma" woke up, "Auntie Nicole"/"Momma" understandably worried when Camille tried to wipe the Frontline® Plus off of the back of her neck by rolling around on a bedcover and Reilly shortly afterward licked the back of Cam's neck! (Excuse "Auntie Nicole"/"Momma" for worrying!)
  3. This morning, "Mimi" gave "Mom-Mom" the same dramatic description that she gave "Auntie Nicole" right after "Auntie Nicole" told "Mom-Mom" that "Mimi" accidentally put her heal under Cam's chin last night! 🤦🏽‍♀️
By the way: As "Auntie Nicole" typed, Camille just tried to go upstairs without permission again! 🤦🏽‍♀️